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Doubt Can Take a Backseat: It's Your Turn to Drive
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Standing in my first apartment after a major life change, keys in hand, I felt completely paralyzed by fear instead of proud. Could I really take care of myself? Would the money stretch far enough? How would I handle being alone? That moment taught me something profound about doubt and how it shows up precisely when we're ready to move forward.
Doubt doesn't arrive quietly – it screams in the silence. After walking through shock when life knocks the wind out of you, sitting in the wilderness of limbo where decisions look like a foggy highway, we finally reach reentry. That's the moment when it's time to stand up and reengage with life. And that's exactly when doubt often hits hardest.
This episode explores practical strategies for facing doubt during life transitions. We dive into accepting fear without being defined by it, trusting the right voices in your support system, escaping the noise that feeds insecurity, and the power of verbalizing your fears to strip them of their control. Remember – doubt doesn't mean you're broken or not ready. It simply means you care about getting your next step right. You've already survived what you thought would break you. You've rebuilt your strength through the wilderness. Now it's time to trust it, give yourself permission to move forward, and put doubt where it belongs – in the backseat while you drive. Ready to quiet the noise and make decisions rooted in truth instead of terror? Let's finish your comeback story together.
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Is there a major life transition benching you? I know you may be asking what's next? What's my purpose? What if? Because I've asked those too.
Speaker 1:Welcome to the Start your Comeback Podcast. I'm Toni Thrash, a certified life coach, and I want to share the tools and practical steps to help you create a winning game plan to move into your new adventure. Hi, welcome back. You're listening to episode 88. Before we dive into today's topic, I've got something exciting to share. I'm currently writing my very first book Start your Comeback. It's packed with the real stuff stories of what it means to rebuild your life, including my own, like the time I stood in my very first apartment, surrounded by boxes, and thought, what if I can't do this? Yeah, that moment's in there too. This book isn't just inspiration. It's your game plan for rebuilding. I cannot wait to get it to you.
Speaker 1:So here we are. We've walked through shock when life knocks the wind out of you. We've sat in limbo where every decision looks like a foggy highway and we seem to be in this wilderness forever. And now we're talking about reentry, that moment when it's time to stand up, step forward and reengage with your life. Just when you're ready to move in comes a familiar voice. You're not ready. Let me tell you. When I heard that voice loud and clear, when I signed the lease on my first apartment, I remember holding the keys in my hand and, instead of feeling proud, I felt paralyzed. I was afraid I couldn't take care of myself, afraid the money wouldn't stretch, afraid of being alone. I was re-entering life in a new way and doubt was riding shotgun, shouting directions I didn't ask for. So today we're going to finish talking about doubt, resilience and how to hear that voice and still move forward anyway.
Speaker 1:So the first thing is is we have to accept it. We have to call it what it is. Doubt doesn't show up quietly, it screams in the silence. And when you're stepping into something new, especially after a loss or change, doubt shows up, dressed as anxiety, indecision and second guessing. Ask me how I know. That first apartment taught me something about that. I didn't need to pretend I wasn't fearless. I had to accept that I was afraid. I had to admit that I didn't know exactly what I was doing. But accepting it didn't make me weak, it made me real. You cannot build resilience without truth. Own the fear, then stare it down.
Speaker 1:Number two your tribe. You've got to trust the right voices. In that season of fear, I had people in my corner friends, mentors, folks who didn't coddle me but who reminded me I was stronger than I felt when I'd call and say, hey, what if I can't pay the bills, or what if I'm not cut out for this? They didn't rush to rescue me, but they did remind me You've done hard things, you'll do this too. That's what your tribe is for Not to rescue you, but to reflect back the truth about who you are. You need people who don't let you shrink just because you're scared. But they can't carry your confidence. You have to learn to carry that yourself.
Speaker 1:Number three escape the noise and stop outsourcing your peace. I can still remember sitting on the floor of that apartment, staring at my bank app and scrolling social media, comparing my behind-the-scenes struggle to someone else's highlight reel. We've all done that. It was a big mistake, because doubt thrives in that kind of noise. I had to shut it all down, literally turn it off, to find the courage to say I can do this, one day at a time. You cannot build resilience if you're constantly outsourcing your peace to Instagram your mama or that one blog post that says you're doing it all wrong. Peace comes from silence, and silence makes room for clarity and clarity invites confidence. Number four get out of your head and say it out loud. Number four get out of your head and say it out loud One of the most healing things I ever did.
Speaker 1:In that season. I told someone the truth. I said I'm afraid I can't take care of myself. And they looked at me and said but you already are. Sometimes that's all it takes getting the fear out of your head and into the air, where it loses its power. When we give doubt a voice but don't challenge it, it becomes our narrator. When we say it out loud, when we challenge it with truth, it shrinks. So write it, speak it and confess it, because when you do, you take the pen back, you become the narrator again. You get your voice back.
Speaker 1:Doubt doesn't mean you're broken. It means you care. It means you want to get this next step right. Here's the truth. You've survived what you thought would break you. You've survived what you thought would break you. You've rented the apartment Big decision. You're paying the bills Other big decisions. You've figured out more than you thought possible. You're not the same person who once needed everyone's opinion to move forward. You're stronger now, wiser, tougher. You've made hard decisions. You believe them to be true and good. You've made hard decisions. You believe them to be true and good. You've lived through shock. You've endured limbo, the wilderness, and now you're re-entering with grit in your gut and wisdom in your bones.
Speaker 1:This isn't about getting it perfect. It's about giving yourself permission. It's about giving yourself permission, permission to move, permission to decide, permission to begin again, even if doubt's still whispering, because this time you're not listening. So let me ask you where is doubt stealing your voice? Where are you holding back? Not because you're not ready, but because you're afraid of being wrong. Here's the deal. There's no perfect decision, but there's progress, there is movement and there is momentum. Think about those questions.
Speaker 1:I'd love to hear from you. Schedule a coaching call today. The link is in the show notes. I'll help you quiet the noise. Face your fears and make decisions you can live with ones rooted in truth, not terror. You've already started your comeback. This step is just the next chapter. You have permission to make the decision, because we're not playing it safe anymore, because you've already walked through the wilderness. You've rebuilt your strength. Now it's time to trust it. You're driving. Now Doubt can take a backseat. Buckle up, you've got places to go. I'll see you next time. Hey, thanks for listening. I don't take it for granted that you're here. You didn't listen by mistake. If you want to reach out, you can DM me on Instagram at Tony Thrash Until next week. Remember, there's still time left on the clock. Let's get you off the bench to start your comeback. I want to give a special shout out to Country Club for the original music. You can find them on Instagram at Country Club. You.
